What does it really mean to be married?? Do young couples really enter into the commitment with the right thought process??

I’ve started to question this recently due to many events that have happened lately. First I guess it has come to my attention due to the massive amount of females that I associate with getting engaged and planning weddings. Now this is not to say that I’m not excited for them. I am. I just really hope that they all realize what they are doing.

As someone that has already made the mistake of getting married without realizing the magnitude of the decision, I feel that this is one thing that I can talk about because I have the experience. The first time that I decided to become a wife I really had no idea what it meant. I had no idea that to be in a successful marriage you had to give yourself completely to such an exclusive partnership. I had no idea that when you made those vows the words I, me, and mine left your vocabulary completely and were replaced with words like ours, we, and us. When I first took the plunge I was 17 and had no idea what it truly meant to be a wife, a partner, and a companion.

Six years later as a 23 year old woman I am finally starting to understand. I understand now how to put someone else before all others and how to value their opinions over anyone else’s. I am now able to see how to be someone’s partner and how to compromise to keep a balance within a relationship. I think that it is a rare understanding and a rare ability to be able to really think this way.

I see getting married among women my age as something they just have to do. I wish more women would really think about what it is they were doing and who they were doing it with. I think it would help a lot with the divorce rate in this country.